[Enneagram Type 9, the Peacemaker] Core Fear and Desire, and How They Appear in Everyday Life

When my heart wavers despite my efforts to protect my peace

We all face conflict and discomfort at certain moments. Each time, our inner world is shaken. For Type 9 Peacemakers in particular, this conflict and discomfort can be difficult because they feel it threatens their inner peace. In this article, we discuss Type 9's core fear and desire and consider how these can be expressed in everyday life.

The desire for peace and its distortion

Type 9's basic desire is to maintain peace. Peace means a sense of stability and harmony that comes from within, a comfort felt internally even when it is not visible on the outside. Yet when this desire is distorted, it appears as stubborn neglect. People often refuse or hesitate.

The desire to maintain peace is a good thing. Yet if, in order to protect it, we fail to listen to those around us or express our own views, the result can be self-alienation. Ultimately, we cannot avoid the very conflict we most want to escape.

The fear of losing connection

Type 9's core fear is losing connection. They fear a state in which conflict and disconnection disrupt their sense of stability and important connections. This fear creates a conflict between maintaining social, emotional, and mental connections and preserving peace and harmony within ourselves.

The Peacemaker's fear and desire are closely connected. To maintain peace, we must always pay attention to the circumstances around us. Yet this does not mean cutting off relationships with others; it means maintaining connection by recognizing and adapting to our surroundings while preserving our inner peace.

Conflict and discomfort inevitably come our way. Rather than only trying to avoid these situations, however, we should strive to recognize and adapt to our surroundings while maintaining our inner peace through them.

Expressions in everyday life

In everyday life, Type 9's core fear and desire may appear in the following ways.

• Trying to avoid uncomfortable situations. People of Type 9 try to avoid or ignore a situation in order to avoid conflict or clashes with others.
• Tending to miss opportunities. People of Type 9 fear new challenges or opportunities and tend to let those opportunities pass.
• Working to maintain peace. To preserve inner peace, people of Type 9 try not to express their own opinions while maintaining relationships with others.

Ways to protect peace

What people of Type 9 need is the ability to accept conflict and discomfort. This requires care for themselves and the ability to maintain relationships with those around them.

• Try to accept and resolve conflict. It is important to develop the ability to recognize and adapt to surrounding circumstances.
• Try to seize opportunities. Rather than fearing new challenges or opportunities, you need to make an effort to take them.
• Express your opinions. Not expressing your opinions can alienate you from yourself, so it is important to express them.

Finally...

The Peacemaker's core desire is to maintain inner peace and connection with those around them, and their core fear is losing these. By understanding and accepting these fears and desires, Peacemakers can develop the ability to recognize and adapt to their surroundings while maintaining both their inner peace and their connections with others.

As Peacemakers, rather than trying to avoid conflict and discomfort, we should strive to recognize and adapt to our surroundings while maintaining our inner peace through them. Through this, we can maintain peace and harmony and our relationships with others in their own unique way.